I am sure many parents can relate to this situation at home,
especially NOW!
It was 7 am and Rahul’s mom was shouting at him to wake up and start preparing for his online exam, since the schools had closed down due to the corona pandemic. Rahul heard his mom but chose to be silent and pulled the blanket over his face. ’’Not again!!!” he mumbled to himself. Within ten minutes, his mom shouted again “Wake up Rahul your have an EXAM!!” His mom went on, “in those days my father used to wake me up at 5 am. We would do some household chores and then sit and study from 6 am. You have all the luxuries, and yet you cannot get up and study”
Rahul mumbled to himself “ufff! Goddddd damn! Mom’s started again!”
She heard the bathroom door close with a bang.
He came out after half an hour and said “mom I am hungry first give me something to eat or else I can’t concentrate”. His mom replied “have your milk and I will make some nutritious porridge with dry fruits and give you in ten minutes. It’s very healthy and you can focus well on your studies.”
Rahul yelled “porridge??? Yuck! I hate it. You are so useless mom you can’t even cook a nice meal for me. You can’t do anything for me. Look at Vijay’s mom she makes such yummy breakfast for him. I hate you!
These words are painful for a mother to hear, who has given numerous long years of her life to address every bit of her child’s needs. As youngsters edge close to adulthood, it appears they arrive at a point where they love being with friends and quit needing to spend time with family members and most often hate to be seen with them. I believe every situation and family is different. However, teenagers are in an in-between phase; they should be taking responsibility but are not completely equipped for it.
Do you agree with me?
Now, let’s try to understand why they behave that way.
Firstly, teenagers are faced with a whole lot of small choices with huge consequences. Secondly, teen years are when parents reap the punishment for parenting mistakes in earlier years. Most often they’re angry at you all the time and blame you for frivolous things like morning is early; weather is hot blah, blah! You see them demonstrating mature relationship skills with other people, but they sure aren’t using them with you.
Parenting a teenager is never easy. You may feel exhausted from lying awake at night worrying about where your child is, who they’re with, and what they’re doing. You may despair over failed attempts to communicate, the endless fights, and the open disobedience—not to mention the moodiness, the intense emotions, and the impulsive reckless attitude and behaviour. It’s a weird journey of exhaustion and joy both at the same time.
Why is parenting the teenager so damn hard?
The fact is because parents have to change their perceptions of their children and that’s a struggle and that’s where they need professional help. And…… that’s why ……
You need professional help right away!
“Because you want your teen to be happy, responsible, healthy, confident and successful, your want it fast and you want it to last“.
Life coaching for youngsters can be a useful solution especially when they are experiencing difficulties. It is normal for both the parent and child to feel overwhelmed during this time of growth and learning. There are a lot of changes happening and many “big decisions” that need to be faced.
As a counselor and coach I offer impartial, trustworthy support without any judgment. Your teenager should be given a chance to vent out their feelings and emotions freely and confidentially – both personal and academic. This may include school and family life, friends or anything else that affects their performance and focus in school. Some will need to be hand held throughout the journey while others may only need to be pointed in the right direction.
While counseling we can help young people develop life skills and teach them how to manage some of the stresses that come along the way. This could be building confidence, setting /achieving goals, managing stress, discussing difficult issues.
So parents – take a deep breath and try to relax, as this might help your teen do the same.
So , here we are to help YOU – Parents of Troubled Teens using scientifically proven tools.
How can your teenager who has signed up for the coaching sessions, benefit you as a parent?
- As coaches we can approach any topic your child feels unable to talk about with you, such as sexuality, body-image issues.
- I can help your child develop mature ways to deal with conflict, stress and anger, which could potentially make life at home much easier on you as a parent.
- Coaching can help your child to better understand the emotions they are experiencing and how to manage them. Most often when your child is reacting aggressively, he/she may be battling feelings of worry or fear. We can help your child understand and control their confused emotions, encouraging an easier parent-child relationship.
Let’s also understand how the gift of psychology helps.
Work on strengths and not on Problems. Work on your powers and not problems. These scientifically proven tools uses techniques of objective measurement, which includes assessments of their intelligence, abilities, motivation and methods of studying and assimilating information based on their personality styles.
Benefits from the session:
- It will guide take well informed parenting decisions that best fits your child’s unique strengths, potential and intelligences.
- Gain invaluable insight into the strengths and weaknesses of self to build a success plan for the future career
- Understand the learning style preferences to develop a strong learning orientation
- Understand what motivates students and use reinforcement techniques to empower them
- EnCASH your KASH- (Knowledge, Attitudes, Skills& Habits) to turn your strengths into career opportunities
- Understand why certain careers bring out the best in your child
- Discover how shaping the attitude makes a difference in the child’s future
So it’s NOW or NEVER
I promise, this won’t last forever
Ultimately, as parents, YOU are YOUR children’s most important role model. While there may be times when your teenager may reject your values and all that you stand for, recognize this is just a phase, and something they need to do to develop a sense of self.
It’s worth reminding you that no matter what happens, with your love, support and professional help your child will get better. Your teen can overcome the problems of adolescence and mature into a happy, well-balanced young adult.
So do not delay and take action now by signing up for a free 30 minute pre trial coaching session and get to know all relevant details necessary.